So this is what happened:
Someone borrowed my notes yesterday, so even though the ending of Surah Aali Imran was so beautiful, I didn’t have it for reference. I figured I would today though, and would have the whole weekend to try and write up something that did justice to the emotional level of that class. But guess what? Someone borrowed it today too. Which means… That was just what was supposed to happen.
I kept thinking of alternate situations and all the what-ifs, but the only conclusion I could come to was to tell myself to breathe. Allah has a plan.
And I think when something happens to us, it takes us a moment to realise that and accept it – that it was Allah’s Plan for it to go that way. And once we do remind ourselves of it, we spend so much time afterwards trying to figure out what that plan might be. Something we need to focus on – and this is a reminder for me first, before anyone else – that this is when we have to apply tawakkul ‘ala Allah – trust in Allah, and let go.
When we did the lessons from the battle of Uhud – and there were so many! – the biggest one was about pardoning and letting go when someone wrongs you. And Alhamdulillah, I couldn’t think of a situation that I had been in to apply that. However, as the days passed, I realised that we are so focused on the big tests – the ones we recognise at tests, albeit after a little while – that it’s the small things that we have problem with. Accepting that that small thing was meant to happen or not – like me forgetting my fabulous ring at home that completed my Eid outfit that made me quite upset – and letting go..
I cannot emphasise those last two words enough.
Another major lesson that I learnt – from this surah and just incidents that happened – is that no matter how much ‘ibadah you do, or how well you are covered up or how beautifully you recite or how many raka’ahs you pray, if your eman does not reflect on your attitude and behaviour towards people, all that means nothing. Because if we have to represent Islam and we don’t treat people with respect and consideration, the image we give them is that that is how we are taught to conduct ourselves.
Our seerah teacher put it beautifully today: We are not people who benefit other people. If we don’t knock on our neighbours’ doors and find out if there was a birth or death that happened that has resulted in the commotion outside our flat, or don’t send them food for no particular occasion, or don’t help them out when we see that they need help, if we give them a lecture about Islam one fine day, why would they want to listen?
SubhanAllah, so much work to do..!
Actually, the same goes with dealing with Muslims too. We try to force the fardh upon them that we don’t realise that first, they need to know Allah and love Him. Because: the things we do for love..
It makes the worship that much easier. Of course this is a whole journey in itself and a different topic altogether! Easiest solution though? Du’a, plain and simple!
Coming back to character though, even if someone isn’t good to you but you are to them, simply for the sake of Allah, know that He never wastes a deed. Every little thing you do is recorded with Him, be it even picking up a tissue. And in saying that, you have no idea what the domino effect of your actions might be, for who might be watching and what they might do in reflection to that.
A sister’s story about getting to where she is now was so wonderful, it actually reminded me of the story of Salman Al Farsi. It all started though when she saw this woman on the plane, all covered up, playing with this girl’s niece. And that might seem like a simple act, one that we might not even deem thinking about, but it started this girl on a journey and changed her life. Imagine the sadaqatul jariyah for that woman!
So the next time we’re with people, if they’re family or strangers, let us remember that no good deed goes unrewarded, and a simple act can have a ripple effect that can result in an ocean of reward.